It is the small things

Thanksgiving morning brought tragic news:  the 18 year old son of a friend was killed the previous evening in a car accident.  Hearing such news envelopes one in a grief that emanates from the deepest recesses of our being. It releases a sob that every parent has within him or her for their children should something befall them.  It is the sob that we have within us for our friends who must bear the burden of grieving for a child lost too soon.

 Meal preparation was with a heavy heart, and the reflection of the close calls that my two young drivers encountered.  I remember being an 18 year old driver -- there is a large divergence between our actual skill and our perception of our skills as a driver at that age.  For many of us we were just plain lucky that the consequence of our actions (too fast, too drunk, too tired, too stupid) did not yield a tragic outcome.

 I don't say that someone was watching out for me, because that then requires the judgment that someone was asleep at the wheel when watching out for another.  Rather, I prefer to think about it in terms of chance.  The odds aren't with us when we are operating under our "too ___" action.  And actions have consequences--sometimes.  When those actions don't have consequences we are lucky.  When those actions invoke consequences, we are not so lucky.

My B/SIL were guests and our friend was mutual.  As we gathered around our table, we were all reminded of the importance of the simple things -- time together, sharing memories, kind words, good food -- and the capriciousness of luck.

Such tragedies also engender action. Had this young man fastened his seat belt, he may have survived.  His mother's grief is channeled into getting the message out of "buckling up".  The young man was also an organ donor.  This great tragedy will help others through his gift of life through the loss of his own.








Thanksgiving Eve

Here we are at my favorite holiday:  Thanksgiving.  What more noble quality is there than being thankful for even the smallest blessings in our lives.  I have many things to be thankful for, and will not bore you with those.  But it is a good lesson in introspection to think of these things at this time.

Last year my daughter had Thanksgiving at her home.  We had a lovely time, but she has a smaller home and table, and there are some real constraints.  This year, we have more to the table, so Thanksgiving is back at my house.  It will be nine of us, and I like sitting at the table, not balancing food on plates and knees and having drink place 'somewhere'.

I don't do tablescapes or any other such decorating.  Rather, I put my effort into the food.  I try to offer something new each year, either a side dish or dessert.  No new side dishes; however, I am making a pumpkin cheesecake from the Bittersweet Bistro.  I've not made it before, but I have made the roasted pear, pomegranate salad and it is a spectacular--trust me on this. 

The recipe calls for chocolate wafers.  I surely have never found any, but I did find some brownie bites at BJ's and that is what I will use.  Here is our menu.  I post these as this blog is my memory, but it might inspire others.

Turkey
Smoked Ham
Brussels Sprouts Hash with caramelized shallots
Spiced Cranberry Sauce
Potato and Turnip Gratin

Spicy Pecan Pear Muffins
Sausage and Cornbread Dressing
Pumpkin Cheesecake (link above) (with a salted caramel sauce)
Maple Pecan Chocolate Tart

 I've posted a link to the Maple Pecan Chocolate Tart.  It is fabulous, and I've been making it for many years.  I'm pretty sure that the recipe came from Bon Appetit, but it is nowhere to be found on Epicurious. 

If you are traveling get there safely.  If you are cooking...godspeed and mind your fingers.


Kudos to my friend Bill

Our gang of three met for lunch at Lunch...a fabulous spot on Summit Avenue in Richmond Va.  Their fare is fantastic.  My friend, Bill, shared that he was running the Richmond Marathon.  My other friend, Lynne, has also run marathons.  I, alone, had no accomplishment of a marathon (or anything close) nor aspiration in any of the marathon genre (thinking, training, doing).  Rather, I'm perfectly happy to simply admire those who do such feats.

Bill finished the marathon, and that was his goal.  I'm proud of him.  Today, I took a spin down the road with my three girls in tow.  We went 25.5 miles less than Bill, but just getting out was an accomplishment.  Since my last run, I managed to hurt my back dragging a chair from my parents' basement upstairs.  It was not one of my more inspired ideas.  I did get the chair up the steps with the added benefit of hurting my back--or at least woke up a 11'ish year old sprained back injury.  I've been keeping ice on it, and that has helped. 

My little jaunt did not aggravate my back, and I'm happy to keep it slow and work into steady.  I've got good shoes, good feedback equipment, and the most willing and excitable partners.  Would that I could be so enthusiastic!









Truth in Exercise

If Jose Ortega y Gasset is correct, and "truth is what quiets the anxieties of the mind", then surely exercise will need to be my current truth.

I looked for my old sweat365 space, but found only a bloated and hard to load website.  Oh well.  I'm feeling a bit that way myself!  When I upgraded my smartphone to an HTC One, I was also interested in upgrading my Polar heart rate monitor.  I stumbled upon the new Bluetooth heart rate monitors that essentially transform your phone into a fitness buddy.  Seems that there are all manner of devices one can deploy to check out his/her biometrics.

Perhaps I have OCD tendencies, but I have to have structure and feedback in an exercise routine--or perhaps that is just a barrier that I throw up to avoid exercise. Would that I would just go and do it.  Truly that is all that needs to be done...run, walk, lift, stretch etc...just do it.   Well, I have to 'do it' with a measurement structure.  And I want to do it with heart rate monitoring, as that structure keeps me from overdoing it.  The simple truth of the matter is that I really don't enjoy exercising. 

My anxiety, then, is that after purchasing the goods, downloading the Runtastic application, I still have not developed a habit.  Anxiety has built to a point where there needs to be a confrontation with (not search for) truth.  That truth is this:  (1) early a.m. is the only time that I've been able to exercise as (a) I have control over my time, (b) it makes me feel good throughout the day; and (c) I like to be up before most people (though lately not so much) to see the sun rise and hear the birds.

I'm on day two.  I'm taking it slowly, though I ended up going alot further today without getting measurement as my phone fell out of my jacket, probably when I bent over to ensure that my running partner, Ella, did not get into the road when cars came by.  She is a happy companion who listens, so it is a joy to take her.  I cannot take my other two dogs comfortably.  That I could journey with just Ella will ensure that I have a greater chance of success.  Taking 3 dogs on leads is NOT enjoyable.


What I like about the program is that it gives me a great report without having to go through any difficult downloads.  My phone gives me a great report, and it uploads automatically to Runtastic.  I can easily see my time in zones and all sorts of neat stuff that will help me stay interested.  I have to intellectually connect with what my body is doing, as my world revolves around my head.  (Which is not particularly a balanced way to go about things).

So this log is inaccurate given my separation from phone in terms of distance traveled and time. After backtracking (with no glasses), I failed to find my phone.  I went back home, grabbed my husband's cell phone and the Thunderbird (I couldn't make the route a 3rd time!).  Every 100 yards I stopped, turned the car off, and called my phone.  After 7 calls, I found my phone. 

I'm looking forward to feeling more energized and keeping my body strong and working.

The Metaphysics of Knife Sharpening

(Posted after written over the past weekend)

I'm holed up in Bedford, with the great company of three loving dogs, a spotty internet connection and beautiful fall weather and four books--only one of which was for a guilty indulgence.  Though it had many fantastically lauded reviews, I couldn't get beyond the first couple of pages.

On to another book, Jose Ortega y Gasset's "Some Lessons in Metaphysics" opened conjointly with Sri Vivekananda's works.  Oddly enough, I read two passages in the space of less than 15 minutes first in one book, then the other that were so similar (existence v. perception or "being v. knowing"), that I had to but marvel at the coincidence of that proximity v. the disparate cultural and time distance of the two authors.

If we are to think of anything about ourselves that is unique, nothing is more accurate than our own weaving of the threads of our experience, and our thinking about any one or multitude of things.  None can have our identical experience.  I'm pretty sure that the experience of my observing a tree is not the same experience as Van Gogh's observation of a tree.  Would that I have such a perspicacity to observe a tree in like manner as Van Gogh, or view a bird in flight as DaVinci would.

Nevertheless, I recognize that my own observations are uniquely my own.  When I read JOyG, or Sri Vivekananda, so much of what each writes is so resonant and clear -- something that I had always 'known' but was unable to articulate. JOyG writes,

 "Truth, for the moment, is what quiets an anxiety in our intelligence". 


When I read both S. V. and JOyG, my intelligence is quieted. In this world of distraction, to focus one's attention on the smallest thing is a great discipline.  And to use one's hands and focus to transform something(s) into another thing, is the essence of being an artisan.  Are not the very creation mythologies of various cultures centered on this penultimate, yet essential, idea of creation?Accordingly, the simplest things such as growing plants, crocheting an item, making pottery, cooking, forging a tool from metal or sharpening stones into an implement are all necessary and good things.  In 'knowledge based society' we get so wrapped up in our intellects and forget that it is indeed the simplest things that ensure our survival.

Ruby
I think that there is no more sacred a word than "create".  However the universe and ourselves came to be, we emanate from some creative force.  This space is not a theological space, and I don't debate religion with any.  Suffice to say, though, I believe that there is a strong creative force from which no thing escapes.  We'll spend the entire existence of (wo)mankind (however long or short that is) arguing about the who, what, when and how that all came to be.  For my own part, I do not care.  I'm here.  I exist.  The creative force is deep within every living organism:  plants, mammals, bacteria, insects, fish and any other thing that I've left out.  Even the interaction of 'inert' items are subject to physics.

We create first out of necessity: ultimately we must have shelter, food, protection -- and fairly reliable ways to reproduce those things on a daily basis should we expect to exist even if it is subsistence. I'm fortunate to not be subsisting.  Accordingly, I have the luxury of having a computer and the necessary accoutrements to speak about these things in this space.  Nevertheless, I never stray very far from subsistence, which brings me back to the point of the post.

Today, my hands are sore and my fingertips relieved of some dermis cells, as I retreated from the distractions of the world and focused rather singularly on the task at hand:  transforming the blade of several knives back to serviceability.

While not so dramatic as the creation of the metal from the contributing organics + heat + formation, the process of transforming a tool to its former glory, is at least within my skill (though still nascent).  It is impossible to 'know' how to do a thing until one does it.  Part of the learning process as we create a competency in a learned skill is the creation of true understanding.  We can research all of the espoused methods of how to cook a turkey, sharpen a knife, hammer a nail...until we get a dry bird, an uneven edge or a bruised thumb a time or two, we really have not exchanged knowledge of  the essential mechanics of how to do something to true understanding of having done it.  It's a useful thing to remember.  Nevertheless, we should understand the method of a thing that we are setting about to do before undertaking it.

So what is metaphysical about cooking a turkey, sharpening a knife or hammering a nail?  It is our interface with the physics of the task at hand and the solidifying of the process of moving from knowledge of a thing to understanding of a thing through our experience with it that makes it metaphysical--the movement from existence/observation to understanding/perception.  (At least that is the leap that I made!)

As we come to any task at hand, our experience with it is unlike any others; our understanding of it will be unlike any others.  On the most elemental level the experience is the same -- I see the same tree as Van Gogh, but my relationship with that experience is unique.  For it is not only our observation of something, but our interpretation (assimilation and communication) of that experience to others that gives that 'something' a reality in our specific purview.  Trees that I do not see are not in my reality.  Things exist for us so long as we give them our attention.  If you are in isolation, the stock market, starving children, genocide, or a plague have little reality for you. What we chose to see, then, has much to do with our reality.


Bottom Perspective of a Bird House
Perhaps no truth can be more universal than the simple one that my truth is uniquely my own. Your truth is uniquely yours.   My intelligence is different than that of others--better or worse, it makes no difference--and my intelligence will have different anxieties.  So the truths that quiet the anxieties of my intelligence, are likely quite different than that of any other.   Accordingly, my realization over my contemplative days in Bedford with my books (SV/JOyG), laptop, spotty internet connection, camera and three dogs was this very distinction.

When I read or write and feel that I have a clear view of the truth, it is only my truth.  That others may find that equally soothing, means that though unique, we share particular organic similarities--I'm pretty sure that my intelligence and the relating anxieties are substantively similar to many others, though not identical.

Shelley
There is no greater hubris, then, for one to say that his/her truth should be your truth.  Ultimately, truth is how each of us (1) defines his/her relationship to life and (2) resolves his/her anxieties. That's not to say that personal truths are healthful.  I'm not saying that in the least.  Each of us is plagued with biases that blind/distort truth.  It is, though, our truth.

If we are to have any hope of grappling with truths that are worthy of pursuing, we should look first to the proclivities of the "anxieties of our intelligence."  It is the quality of those anxieties that matter in how we focus our energies and what truth we find (or manufacture).
Savannah

For the moment, I will reflect more on those anxieties, and may have more to say about it.  The passage from JOyG was very intriguing to me.  I hope that for any reader it inspires some contemplative fodder.  The quieting that I experienced was rhythmically sharping steels against stone, feeling the grass under my feet, taking pics of my sister's dogs and other things -- seeing, feeling, and doing out of my normal element, and thinking about 'stuff' in a different way through JOyG and SV's inspiration.